How to be Mentally Strong
Mental strength comes in a lot of forms. One of them is simply avoiding the things that irritate you or disappoint you. Having the ability to acknowledge and keep triggers at bay is the definition of mental strength. The following list includes twelve things you can do and avoid to help you become mentally strong.
Don’t Fear Alone Time
Silence is golden. You need time to yourself for your body and brain to recharge. That requires some time of silence. If meditating is not for you, reading or even playing a game on your phone counts.
Don’t Dwell on the Past
I know, it’s hard. “I should have done this instead” “What if I had made this decision?” all of that doubt and regret is causing negative feelings within you and will eventually build up to a point where it makes a great impact.
Don’t Feel the World Owes You
This is a sure-fire way to build yourself up to experience disappointment. No matter how bad or good your life has been up to this point, it is not a sign that you will receive good fortune at any point in the future.
Don’t Expect Immediate Results
In a world where everything is at our fingertips and we are used to immediate gratification, you have to recognize that that will not happen in every situation and you have to wait for things. Patience is a virtue and leads to the greatest results.
Don’t Worry About Pleasing Everyone
If everyone tried to please everyone, no one would be happy. Some people have expectations that will be out of your reach. And THAT’S OK. You can’t make yourself happy all the time, how can you even think that you can make everyone else happy?
Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Yourself
When you feel sorry for yourself, you allow yourself to continue to be a victim. When you live in victimization you are stuck in it and you cannot grow. In order to grow as an individual and gain wisdom, you have to move forward.
Don’t Waste Energy on Things You Can’t Control
This may seem like a no-brainer, but it’s hard to know what things you can control and what things are out of your hands. If what you want depends on another person, you can not control it and you have to do your best to leave it out of your hands.
Don’t Let Others Influence Your Emotions
Everyone has emotions and reactions to situations. You and they are entitled to them. You are also entitled to not feel a certain emotion in any situation or one that another person believes you should feel.
Don’t Resent Other People’s Success
People are going to succeed. People are also going to get opportunities that you won’t or you wanted. You don’t receive the things you want if they are not meant for you. God or the universe has a plan for you. Some opportunities are not for you to have, but positivity can be given to everyone.
Don’t Shy Away from Responsibilities
I know, adulting sucks. But it needs to be done. And you gain experience and knowledge from doing things. Owning up to your responsibilities also gives you a reason to get up and do things when you are feeling down and wanting to lay in bed all day.
Don’t Give Up After the First Failure
Besides the fact that no one succeeded after the first try at anything, giving up after the first try allows your self-esteem to diminish and for you to second guess yourself and lose confidence.
Don’t Fear Calculated Risks
Calculated risks are risks that you take after weighing the outcomes. Like taking a new job, buying a house or car, and picking a major. Calculated risks are where your greatest successes come from.